I always hear about military members volunteering to go on deployments and remotes. WHY?? I can only imagine it is because they don't love like it hurts. It hurts for us to be away from each other. I would much rather let fate take him from me then our own choosing. People who are in failing marriages see deployments and remotes as a temporary fix to a major problem. I can't imagine happily married people that want any time apart. I truly am happy with my husband and our life. I feel so blessed to have our family.
I would not change my love for him no matter how much it hurts. But that is how true love is anyways. I wish that all military couples had happy marriages although the reality is otherwise.
I hope that if your marriage is not strong you take the time to think about why it is not and maybe this will be a good time to clear your minds and rejuvenate that love. Send him a letter letting him know your thoughts and feelings. Best of luck to everyone. I hope we all survive these deployments and can maintain or begin strong marriages.
P.S. - If your active duty member does volunteer to leave I am not saying you have a bad marriage or trying to be negative. I know a soldier loves his job. :-) I also know that some people make the sacrifice so they can get the pick of a base and other reasons. AND my husband would never turn down a deployment, he serves with honor and is grateful to do his part.